Stress Is Everywhere
Stress abounds in the modern time-poor drama-filled world. Those that aren't feeling stressed are either lying to themselves or have managed to find a happy work/study/life balance that few people have the ability to create for themselves if they want to get good grades or pay their bills on time. So if you are feeling stressed - I say join the club!
What is really relevant here is how we respond to the feeling of stress. All of us can have feelings of impatience, irritation, annoyance and anger from time to time - but the way in which we react to those stimuli defines our ability to cope with stress.
When we are feeling stressed, even the smallest things can totally set us off, often leading to a verbal barrage on friends or family (or even innocent bystanders) that leaves us looking like an emotional wreck and those around us feeling the aftermath of our outburst. This happens because the stress we are carrying around is clouding our judgement and impacting on the way we view the world - which in turn impacts the way we treat others.
For most people this only happens occasionally, however in more serious situations this can happen regularly, and once something becomes a regular action, it quickly becomes a habit. In this case, it is a negative habit that has no positive outcomes.
The bad news is that habits can't be eliminated; but the good news is that habits can be replaced. If you are serious about removing stress from your life you need to get serious about replacing this destructive habit.
The Problem: Mini-Me Is Saying Negative Things Again!
Negative self-dialogue is a consistent reaction to stressful situations. Responses such as "I can't do this", "I am going to fail", or "I don't know what I'm doing" only add further stress to the stress that is being experienced! It is a downward spiral. Unfortunately, this type of dialogue is also our most powerful dialogue and controls our responses to stressful situations.
Among other things, negative self-talkers tend to believe that others are out to get them in one way or another (even though they clearly are not), see positive events in a negative light (which also brings others down and means they don't strive for positive outcomes because they think positive outcomes are actually negative outcomes!) and they also believe that their life is "full of stress" which they can't "handle" (even though the stress is actually just created in their own head).
This can be potentially very serious - it may also lead to being quite lonely (or grouped with other negative self-talkers - yikes there's a bunch of them - run!) The negativity tends to hang over this person like a dark cloud. However, the good news is that it can be overcome by making positive self-talk a habit.
The Solution: The Voice Inside Me Builds Me Up!
When controlled and executed properly, positive self-dialogue can truly change your life. A constant state of positivism breeds positive experiences and connections with other positive people. The other major benefit of positive self-dialogue is that your outlook on your life will improve even if nothing about your life is actually different. However, the fact you feel better about yourself and your life means that you are far more open to the actions that are required to get you the results you want.
Optimism and positivism result in better relationships, better health and better grades. By always looking on the bright side of life and constantly telling yourself "I can do this", or "I am doing well", or "I have everything under control" or "Everything always works out really well for me" you will be absolutely shocked at what happens. Try it for a day. Then try it for a week. Then try it for a month. Before you know it you will have created a brand new habit and will be positively beaming!
Only by understanding what is causing our stress can we take steps to address it. The reality is that many factors can create stress but understanding what is at the root is the most important step to resolving the internal conflict. The full article is available for you to read by following the links below. I wish you good luck.
Stress abounds in the modern time-poor drama-filled world. Those that aren't feeling stressed are either lying to themselves or have managed to find a happy work/study/life balance that few people have the ability to create for themselves if they want to get good grades or pay their bills on time. So if you are feeling stressed - I say join the club!
What is really relevant here is how we respond to the feeling of stress. All of us can have feelings of impatience, irritation, annoyance and anger from time to time - but the way in which we react to those stimuli defines our ability to cope with stress.
When we are feeling stressed, even the smallest things can totally set us off, often leading to a verbal barrage on friends or family (or even innocent bystanders) that leaves us looking like an emotional wreck and those around us feeling the aftermath of our outburst. This happens because the stress we are carrying around is clouding our judgement and impacting on the way we view the world - which in turn impacts the way we treat others.
For most people this only happens occasionally, however in more serious situations this can happen regularly, and once something becomes a regular action, it quickly becomes a habit. In this case, it is a negative habit that has no positive outcomes.
The bad news is that habits can't be eliminated; but the good news is that habits can be replaced. If you are serious about removing stress from your life you need to get serious about replacing this destructive habit.
The Problem: Mini-Me Is Saying Negative Things Again!
Negative self-dialogue is a consistent reaction to stressful situations. Responses such as "I can't do this", "I am going to fail", or "I don't know what I'm doing" only add further stress to the stress that is being experienced! It is a downward spiral. Unfortunately, this type of dialogue is also our most powerful dialogue and controls our responses to stressful situations.
Among other things, negative self-talkers tend to believe that others are out to get them in one way or another (even though they clearly are not), see positive events in a negative light (which also brings others down and means they don't strive for positive outcomes because they think positive outcomes are actually negative outcomes!) and they also believe that their life is "full of stress" which they can't "handle" (even though the stress is actually just created in their own head).
This can be potentially very serious - it may also lead to being quite lonely (or grouped with other negative self-talkers - yikes there's a bunch of them - run!) The negativity tends to hang over this person like a dark cloud. However, the good news is that it can be overcome by making positive self-talk a habit.
The Solution: The Voice Inside Me Builds Me Up!
When controlled and executed properly, positive self-dialogue can truly change your life. A constant state of positivism breeds positive experiences and connections with other positive people. The other major benefit of positive self-dialogue is that your outlook on your life will improve even if nothing about your life is actually different. However, the fact you feel better about yourself and your life means that you are far more open to the actions that are required to get you the results you want.
Optimism and positivism result in better relationships, better health and better grades. By always looking on the bright side of life and constantly telling yourself "I can do this", or "I am doing well", or "I have everything under control" or "Everything always works out really well for me" you will be absolutely shocked at what happens. Try it for a day. Then try it for a week. Then try it for a month. Before you know it you will have created a brand new habit and will be positively beaming!
Only by understanding what is causing our stress can we take steps to address it. The reality is that many factors can create stress but understanding what is at the root is the most important step to resolving the internal conflict. The full article is available for you to read by following the links below. I wish you good luck.
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