When we focus on being the best person we can be, we let go of the pressure and expectation of what others think we should be.
The society we have been brought up in has fed us this narrative that we always have to be something more than who we are.
We always have to be funnier, wealthier, skinnier, fitter, and everything else in the book. All of these things make us believe that we aren't good enough at all and that is the farthest thing from the truth. The truth is, we all have unique gifts that we were given and we just need to uncover ourselves from the endless stories we have been fed to truly see those gifts. If we fail to take off our masks, no one will ever truly see us for who we are.
It's a hell of a lot easier to be living a life exactly as who you are instead of always trying to be someone else.
Now, this isn't to say that personal development is a bad thing. In fact, it's a wonderful thing. But if you are going to go down that road make sure you are doing it for yourself. Don't do it for anyone else or to impress anyone, just do it for you. Do it because it makes you happy. Do it because you see more for yourself.
The problem is most people end up diving into personal development for other people and don't end up believing in what they are doing. Without some significant amounts of belief, you will end up giving up time and time again because your reasons for doing it aren't strong enough. The worst case scenario is that you give up on yourself and you end up resenting the other person who caused you to do it.
Love and appreciate the things, people, and life that you have right now. Accept where you are at and then if you want to build something different for yourself, dive into it fully. Dive into it because you believe in it. Dive into it because it's something that you want to do and it's something that will make you incredibly proud. That's a life that you can be happy about.
Because in the end, if we stay true to ourselves, we could never hang our heads about how we lived our lives.
The society we have been brought up in has fed us this narrative that we always have to be something more than who we are.
We always have to be funnier, wealthier, skinnier, fitter, and everything else in the book. All of these things make us believe that we aren't good enough at all and that is the farthest thing from the truth. The truth is, we all have unique gifts that we were given and we just need to uncover ourselves from the endless stories we have been fed to truly see those gifts. If we fail to take off our masks, no one will ever truly see us for who we are.
It's a hell of a lot easier to be living a life exactly as who you are instead of always trying to be someone else.
Now, this isn't to say that personal development is a bad thing. In fact, it's a wonderful thing. But if you are going to go down that road make sure you are doing it for yourself. Don't do it for anyone else or to impress anyone, just do it for you. Do it because it makes you happy. Do it because you see more for yourself.
The problem is most people end up diving into personal development for other people and don't end up believing in what they are doing. Without some significant amounts of belief, you will end up giving up time and time again because your reasons for doing it aren't strong enough. The worst case scenario is that you give up on yourself and you end up resenting the other person who caused you to do it.
Love and appreciate the things, people, and life that you have right now. Accept where you are at and then if you want to build something different for yourself, dive into it fully. Dive into it because you believe in it. Dive into it because it's something that you want to do and it's something that will make you incredibly proud. That's a life that you can be happy about.
Because in the end, if we stay true to ourselves, we could never hang our heads about how we lived our lives.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME Life Coaching and writes daily articles on the journey of life at The Better Man Project Dive into these Encouraging Quotes to start your journey into personal development today.